So, today’s one-word prompt (via Daily Prompt) is carry.
What came to mind, was a discussion that I had with an online friend yesterday. She had a bit of a rough day and felt like she often found herself in those situations where she’s the caring one, while her friends often end up taking advantage of her kindness. It’s a situation I can relate to, in fact I dare say that we’ve all been there at least once. Of course, it’s tiresome to be the one who always seem to do all the caring, while others keeps piling on you; expecting you to be there for them, because that’s who you’ve always been. Anyway, my friend was having trouble with another online friend of hers. She explained how they’d gotten closer over the last couple of months, and while the other person initially seemed very interested, they don’t seem to be as interested anymore, due to another online person having entered their lives. Now, my friend didn’t know whether she was just being paranoid, or if she was actually detecting a distancing from her friend.
What she asked me was if it mattered, being a good friend. A good person, really.
This, too, I think is a familiar thought. I know I’ve had it, when I’ve had bad day and have just felt kind of tired of the same old thing. Still, my response was that yes, I’d like to think that it matters. Having said that, it’s still not fun to feel like you’re being taken for granted, or even used, just because you go out of your way to make others feel nice. The Internet is a tricky place, and it’s easy to see how some people—who seemingly have a need to always be in the spotlight—tend to drag those people in, those who cares, only to toss them aside once they’ve gotten what they needed from the interaction. I don’t know if I believe in karma, but if you’re nice, and if you treat others the way that you want to be treated; it can never be a bad thing, can it? Sure, you might be setting yourself up for some heartache, but in the long run, isn’t it better to keep being nice? You never know how your act of kindness might impact someone, right? What if you, just because you decided to ask the question ‘you sure you okay?’ or ‘do you want to talk about it’, ended up doing something really great for someone? Like the quote above states, friends and good manners will carry you, and I believe it will. If you continue to be that nice person, somewhere along the line, your life will be better for it. You, as a person, will be better for it. Besides, when you start doubting if it makes a difference, hopefully you’ll have some real friends—those who won’t take you for granted and who recognize the effort you’ve put into the relationship—tell you that it matters. Hopefully, they’ll be able to tell you about all of those times when they were ready to give up on something, or were doubting themselves, but because you went out of your way to help them, they got through it.
So, keep being a good friend. Keep being nice. It’ll carry you places.